Negative Thoughts! This Could Help

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Today,I will like to share this article I got and I hope it will speak positively to us in all of our endeavors.Amen

Please read below:

“I know my negativity kills me, so why do I think like this?”

You wouldn’t believe how many emails we get every day that contain a similar question.  Thankfully, we have answers.

Thinking ‘the worst,’ expecting catastrophic failure and betrayal, seeing problems where others don’t, and even seeing positives as negatives – all convey a kind of emotional insurance policy.  “If I expect the worst, then I won’t be disappointed if and when it happens.”

Can you relate in any way?

Another negative thinking trap that can mess with us is the ‘I told you so’ syndrome.  For some people, it can feel more important to be proved right in their negative predictions than to have good things happen (and therefore be proved ‘wrong’).

Before I get too positive about negativity though, here’s a thought:  The habit of thinking negatively doesn’t just predict how likely someone is to become depressed, but also predicts how likely they are to suffer from all sorts of other diseases and disorders later on in life.  I’m not suggesting that negative thinking alone creates disease, but it certainly doesn’t help.

In this post we’re going to look at what you can do to stop thinking negatively.  But first, let’s examine a super-common mistake negative people tend to make:

Negative people are often proud to describe themselves as ‘realists.’  Of course, anyone who holds a strong belief thinks they are being ‘realistic’ by holding it, whether it involves UFO encounters or perfectly truthful politicians.

The ‘being more realistic’ declaration is a favorite of cynics everywhere.  And in a way they are correct.  But only because negative thinking causes us not to try – or if we do try, to do it half-heartedly and give up sooner – so the negativity itself influences our outcomes.  Self-fulfilling predictions like this really do happen. Research has even found that in some cases what we believe about our health can have more bearing on how long we live than our actual health.

What makes all of this so scary is the fact that it means negative thoughts can plague us even when things seem to be going relatively well.  For instance, the thought “It’s too good to last!” quickly wrecks havoc on a positive situation.  Thus, my first tip has to do with how negative thinking distorts our perception…

1.  Stop thinking in extremes.

Life simply isn’t black or white – 100% of this or 100% of that – all or nothing.  Thinking in extremes like this is a fast way to misery, because negative thinking tends to view any situation that’s less than perfect as being extremely bad.  For example:

Rather than the rainstorm slowing down my commute home from work, instead “it wasted my whole evening and ruined my night!”

Instead of my business venture taking a while to gain traction, “it’s never going to work, and it’s going to completely ruin my financial future.”

Rather than just accepting the nervousness of meeting a new group of people, “I know these people are not going to like me.”

All or nothing thinking completely misses out the subtle shades in life.  It makes us see the future in terms of dramatic disasters, disappointments and catastrophes.  Sure, disasters occasionally happen, but contrary to what you many see on the evening news, most of life occurs in a grey area between the extremes of bliss and devastation.

The first step to overcoming negative thinking isn’t to ‘just be positive’ suddenly, but to carefully look for shades of grey.  Say you’ve been worrying about an intimate relationship.  Rather than thinking: “It’s going to end with two broken hearts, I just know it is” or even “It’s going to be absolutely perfect 24/7,” how about: “I expect there will be great times, good times, and not so good times, but we will work together, respect each other, and give our relationship a fair chance before drawing any conclusions. ”

Culled from Marc And Angel

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