Negative Thoughts! This Could Help

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Today,I will like to share this article I got and I hope it will speak positively to us in all of our endeavors.Amen

Please read below:

“I know my negativity kills me, so why do I think like this?”

You wouldn’t believe how many emails we get every day that contain a similar question.  Thankfully, we have answers.

Thinking ‘the worst,’ expecting catastrophic failure and betrayal, seeing problems where others don’t, and even seeing positives as negatives – all convey a kind of emotional insurance policy.  “If I expect the worst, then I won’t be disappointed if and when it happens.”

Can you relate in any way?

Another negative thinking trap that can mess with us is the ‘I told you so’ syndrome.  For some people, it can feel more important to be proved right in their negative predictions than to have good things happen (and therefore be proved ‘wrong’).

Before I get too positive about negativity though, here’s a thought:  The habit of thinking negatively doesn’t just predict how likely someone is to become depressed, but also predicts how likely they are to suffer from all sorts of other diseases and disorders later on in life.  I’m not suggesting that negative thinking alone creates disease, but it certainly doesn’t help.

In this post we’re going to look at what you can do to stop thinking negatively.  But first, let’s examine a super-common mistake negative people tend to make:

Negative people are often proud to describe themselves as ‘realists.’  Of course, anyone who holds a strong belief thinks they are being ‘realistic’ by holding it, whether it involves UFO encounters or perfectly truthful politicians.

The ‘being more realistic’ declaration is a favorite of cynics everywhere.  And in a way they are correct.  But only because negative thinking causes us not to try – or if we do try, to do it half-heartedly and give up sooner – so the negativity itself influences our outcomes.  Self-fulfilling predictions like this really do happen. Research has even found that in some cases what we believe about our health can have more bearing on how long we live than our actual health.

What makes all of this so scary is the fact that it means negative thoughts can plague us even when things seem to be going relatively well.  For instance, the thought “It’s too good to last!” quickly wrecks havoc on a positive situation.  Thus, my first tip has to do with how negative thinking distorts our perception…

1.  Stop thinking in extremes.

Life simply isn’t black or white – 100% of this or 100% of that – all or nothing.  Thinking in extremes like this is a fast way to misery, because negative thinking tends to view any situation that’s less than perfect as being extremely bad.  For example:

Rather than the rainstorm slowing down my commute home from work, instead “it wasted my whole evening and ruined my night!”

Instead of my business venture taking a while to gain traction, “it’s never going to work, and it’s going to completely ruin my financial future.”

Rather than just accepting the nervousness of meeting a new group of people, “I know these people are not going to like me.”

All or nothing thinking completely misses out the subtle shades in life.  It makes us see the future in terms of dramatic disasters, disappointments and catastrophes.  Sure, disasters occasionally happen, but contrary to what you many see on the evening news, most of life occurs in a grey area between the extremes of bliss and devastation.

The first step to overcoming negative thinking isn’t to ‘just be positive’ suddenly, but to carefully look for shades of grey.  Say you’ve been worrying about an intimate relationship.  Rather than thinking: “It’s going to end with two broken hearts, I just know it is” or even “It’s going to be absolutely perfect 24/7,” how about: “I expect there will be great times, good times, and not so good times, but we will work together, respect each other, and give our relationship a fair chance before drawing any conclusions. ”

Culled from Marc And Angel

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 Communicating With Your Spouse :

Hello my dear bloggers.Today I just want to talk about technology and relationships generally.
To start with,technology is the in-thing now,we all have access to social media,the internet and so on but how does it connect to our relationships.

I was in a gathering sometime ago and there was a discussion that came up about social issues .When asked to contribute,we all talked ,everyone was talking about it ,one of the audience seated there was also trying to contribute to the talk,when suddenly his wife cut in and asked him"Why didn't you tell me about this one too?".We were surprised,i guess some people were of this thought that,*Is this woman not in town?*.Well, another issue came up and we forgot about the incident.But there was a lesson to be learnt there.She couldn't have spit up such statement without having a reason behind it.Maybe she was not informed or rarely didn't have time to look up the internet! It's like that everywhere!.Wives and Husbands go to their different jobs daily and don't have some minutes to spare to gist about anything.We are caught up with one thing or the other.You don't have to be like this every time.

Lesson:

Talk to your spouse about new things you see,you watch or read about on the internet.Our mothers are always working,never tired to forget to clean the home or take care of the kids,so also our fathers too,working hard to make sure everyone is happy There is little or no time to discuss something funny!So when there is an opportunity to,do not hesitate to.You would be glad you did.

In conclusion,I have learnt to  abstain from social media gist alone,we too as a person are live wires of sociability,a short story or joke can bring out much life from your spouse than you can think of.A happy home filled with the love of God has Effective Communication.

God Bless You.

RE-INTRODUCTION

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The Electronic Media and the 21st Century:   How Parents Can Wisely Put a Limit to it

I stumbled on this article and decided to post it here for the benefit of everyone.I will appreciate your comments and suggestion.  Read Below:

Parent's Question: My spouse and I are really concerned that our son is always on some form of electronics: videos, computer games and even his homework is on the iPad. What can we do to limit his time in front of a screen so he can live a normal life? We are at our wits end because he balks at the time restrictions we give him. We both work although my wife works part time from home so she can be here when he gets off the school bus. Any suggestions would be very appreciated.

Mom says: 

Welcome to the 21st century! When I had our first child in 1990 I thought television would be my nemesis but my kids don't watch much TV at all (very few of their peers watch TV – today it's all about gaming or Social Media).

My first suggestion for parents on this – as with so many other things – is simple: start early. If you begin when your kids are young with common sense rules for computer and TV use, it will be much easier to continue that when it comes to iPhones. Changing family patterns when the kids are already teens is possible, but it is much more difficult.

Admittedly it is very hard to monitor our kids PC or smartphone use. How do parents keep our family from drowning in electronic time? Here are some of my suggestions:

1. Create a home with lots of activities besides the electronics and invite neighborhood kids to join when possible. Growing up, my neighborhood was my playground. My brother and I would simply run out and start kick ball games, create theatre productions of the simplest sort, and generally keep ourselves occupied with the kids on our block. These days, many moms are working and kids are in daycare, not at home, so playdates are complicated to arrange. But if you make your home the center of activity, other kids will come. Our garage has ping pong and basketball set up for snowy days, and downstairs I have all sorts of games as well as air hockey and billiards set up. You may feel a bit like an activities director (and you may have to get your work done after you son has gone to bed) but these days a home that provides a creative and safe environment is a treasure.

2. Do not use electronic media as a babysitter. Since my health became very frail three years ago I can relate to the temptation of using electronics as a babysitter and center of entertainment. When I am sick or tired It takes real discipline for me (more than my son) to get him off the electronics. So on days I am feeling unwell, I make sure he either has a friend over or he has a book that he is reading. Of course, our youngest has tennis lessons and sax and all the rest, but it is important for him to learn to use his time creatively since this feeds his spirit.

3. Finally we must always remember that more is caught than taught. Don't do email on your Iphone at dinner or be texting people when you have a chance to talk with your daughter. If your kids see you spending too much precious time on electronic media, they will do the same.

Dad Says:

  It is very important to have firm rules for e-media use for ourselves and our children. If we as parents are addicted to e-media (and let's be honest, that is very, very easy these days) it is almost a certainty that our children will be also). So the first rule is to look at our own lives and be sure that we are not controlled by e-media (like money, electronic media is an excellent servant but a terrible master).

Our household rules on e-media include the following:

• a limit on the amount of e-media use for each child every day (this summer we are letting our 14-year-old play e-games for 2 hours a day – assuming he is not ill)
• a complete ban on e-media use during family meals or family devotions (which we usually do on Sundays) or other important family times together
• a ban on gambling or sex sites or other illicit sites. The need for this is clear but it must be reinforced constantly as some of our children's peer are guaranteed to be doing this

Being diligent with our children and their use of e-media is as important today as keeping them away from wolves was 200 years ago. It take time and diligence...but it pays off in the long run.

Culled from Christianpost.com

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